Part 2 of a 3-Part Series
In Part 1 of this series, we talked about your bedroom and things you should remove according to the principles of Feng Shui, that contribute to the negative flow of energy, and thus are a deterrent to enjoying great sex or attracting your life partner.
As I talked about in Part 1, everything is made up of energy, including everything in your home. The way we create anything is through thought, which is also energy. So by taking the time to clean, move, repair, replace or remove the things that contribute to the negative energy in your home, or in this case, your bedroom, you are making room for new energy to form.
In Part 2 of this series we dive further into Feng Shui and the things to avoid in your bedroom when creating a harmonious environment for great sex!
Placement of the bed
According to Feng Shui, the placement of the bed is very important. Think of your bed as being a backbone of support. It’s the cornerstone in providing you with adequate rest and well, a major contributor in providing the right environment for extracurricular activities.
You want to place the headboard along a solid wall, so as to provide a solid “backbone” of support and protection. Putting your headboard underneath a large window would be a bad idea. I grew up in California – Earthquake Country. I’ve experienced more than my fair share of “Shakers” where windows were broken, so it makes absolute sense to me why you wouldn’t put a bed under a large window.
You want to have a view of the bedroom door while you are lying in your bed without being directly in line with the door. This means you are facing your bedroom door while you are lying in your bed or you have full view of the bedroom door from the side of the bed. This goes back to that whole security and comfort thing: You certainly wouldn’t want any unwanted onlookers – your kids, for example, to sneak up on you while you are “in the act”.
Change your sheets
How you dress your bed – the star piece of furniture in your bedroom – is vital to the kind of experiences you will enjoy while in your bed. So consider this: if you are still using the sheets from your past lover or worse, a divorce, then you are inviting the energy of that past relationship to bed down with you and your new lover!
For the same reason, you wouldn’t want to buy or use a used mattress because you don’t want to bring in potentially negative energy into your bedroom and especially, your bed.
Also, if your sheets are torn or tattered it’s time to replace them. Used, torn, tattered – not good energy to bring into your bedroom! Inject some fire into your relationship by investing in sheets that make you feel sensual, beautiful!
Artwork and Decorations
Just as you wouldn’t want to put your body and particularly your head under a large window while you are sleeping (or otherwise engaged) you also wouldn’t want to put heavy artwork or decorations above your bed for the same reason. The same thing would apply to tall, heavy bookshelves that are placed too close to the bed. Even if you don’t live in Earthquake Country like I did growing up in California, having heavy objects too close to the bed still creates a sense of uneasiness in the back of your mind that something could fall on you. When it comes to things that contribute to an environment for great sex, you definitely want to promote a sense of relaxation and serenity in your bedroom. You won’t get that feeling if you have any concern at all that something heavy might fall on you.
Be careful of what artwork you hang in your bedroom. I have read story after story where a person has been single for a long time. They go on a lot of dates, but they can’t seem to attract a relationship that will stick. By and by the culprit is usually a painting of a woman (or man), by herself staring off into the distance or otherwise looking melancholy. Our subconscious mind works in pictures. Artwork and photos are very powerful tools for creation. Make sure you are sending your subconscious the right message!
For the same reason you wouldn’t want pictures in your bedroom that depict sadness, violence or fear, such as movie posters or any kind of image that doesn’t reflect love, peace and tranquility. Be sure to avoid objects like swords or guns, even if they are antiques in the bedroom.
Although pictures of your children are great, they don’t belong in the bedroom. The bedroom is your sacred space for you and your love only.
Beware Sharp Edges
All of the furniture in your bedroom should be comfortable and there should be no sharp edges. It’s not very romantic when you are continually banging your shin on the trunk at the foot of the bed.
Bathrooms and in particular, toilets, have traditionally been a problem in Feng Shui because obviously that is where we excrete waste. However, with today’s modern plumbing bathrooms don’t present the same health hazard they once did. Still, having a view of a toilet especially with the lid up from your bed does not conjure up images of great sex in my eyes! If your bed does have a view of the toilet, make sure you keep the door to the bathroom closed. If there is no door than I would strongly urge you to put up a curtain or folding screen.
Obviously if you have a master bathroom off of your bedroom you should keep your bathroom clean. Bathroom odors and mold do NOT contribute to an environment for great sex! Also, be sure to immediately repair or fix any leaks – is there anything less sexy than lying in bed, cuddling, listening to the toilet “run”?
Generally speaking, mirrors in Feng Shui are a good thing as they help direct the flow of energy throughout the home. But when it comes to the bedroom, mirrors are not a good thing. The thinking is that they bounce too much energy around the room. I just think they could be distracting when you are making out with your lover and you can see your reflection from the bed. And you definitely do not want them above the bed (that’s an old 70s thing anyway, isn’t it?) for the same reasons you don’t want your head directly under a window or heavy object.
In the third and last article in this series we get to the fun stuff: Things you can do to boost the sexual and attractive energy of your bedroom! Stay tuned – this is where we turn the heat up!
It’s time for you to finally get love RIGHT!
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